How to Spot an Unhappy Relationship
The telltale signs of any healthy or unhealthy relationship are easy to see. But how can you spot an unhappy relationship? How can you tell if a relationship or marriage is going on the right tracks or not? If you’re part of the relationship, your subjective memories and feelings can make it a bit trickier to analyze things.
There are some tips that teach you how to spot an unhappy relationship. This is a very essential thing that every couple should do in order to solve their problems and look for happier solutions and compromise when the situation demands for a change.
Not Eager to Come Home
Happy couples can’t wait to come home to their significant other. If you don’t find any joy in coming home from a long day at work and you seek different tasks to stay at work more, it’s clear that you are unhappy. It’s time to analyze your relationship and see what bothers you. Have a heart to heart conversation with your partner and see what you can do in order to both feel happy about your relationship.
Not Happy About Yourself
If you have the feeling that you need to change something about yourself, if you don’t seem confident or comfortable with the way you are and look, you have to dig a little deeper. Why are you dissatisfied with yourself? Is your partner still flattering you? Is he or she still pointing out the things that you do that make you so special? Is he or she noticing you at all? We tend to feel displeased with ourselves when we are ignored or when others highlight our flaws or criticize us too often. If your partner points out your flaws and criticizes you, it’s time to leave. No wonder you’re unhappy. Someone who loves you loves you and your flaws. A person that loves you will support you, lift you up and help you be the best version of yourself without making you feel bad about yourself.
Lack of Trust
Instinct never fails. If you doubt your partner’s fidelity, if you feel the need to spy on him, something is definitely wrong. Even if you have trust issues by default you can still feel when someone is loyal to you. If, however, you feel that your partner can’t be trusted, there might be some truth to this feeling. This is definitely an unhappy, unhealthy kind of relationship. If there isn’t mutual respect and trust there isn’t much left for the foundation of any great, long lasting relationship. Nobody should feel threatened or cheated. Nobody should have to spy on his partner and nobody should feel compelled to prove his loyalty on a regular basis. This isn’t a relationship; it’s an obsessive interaction that leads to anger, bitterness, frustration. Address these problems and try to solve them with the help of a therapist. If the problem isn’t solved, maybe it’s time to call it off and find the person that truly makes you happy.