Winter Beauty Tips
Winter Beauty Tips
Different seasons require different beauty rituals and winter makes no difference. There are certain winter beauty tips that anyone should follow in order to lead a healthy life, feel and look good. The cold weather, the winds, the temperature differences when you get out in the cold from a warm room may have an impact on your skin.
The following winter beauty tips are essential to keep your skin glowing and moisturized during the cold season. If you love all things frugal, the following information will definitely suit your frugal lifestyle. You can try different winter beauty tips if you feel that more than one beauty hack suits your style.
Natural Body Scrubs
There are plenty of natural body scrubs that use honey, brown sugar, coffee, almonds, orange peels and whatnot. You can use whatever ingredients you feel like as long as they manage to help you scrub the dead cells away. This is one fine way of keeping your skin young, beautiful and all a-glow!
Don’t Forget the Hair
We wear beanies, ear muffs, scarves that can easily make our hair feel greasy, slimy and the cold wind makes the hair feel so dry. You have to drink plenty of water and use natural shampoo, hair masks and conditioner to keep your hair looking shiny and healthy.
The Hands Are Targeted, Too
Wear gloves no matter what! You can find so many beautiful, flattering gloves that not only make you look fashionable, they also protect your hands from the cold. And since we’re talking about hands, always carry hand cream in your purse. It will help you fight the effects of winter easier.
Body Oils and Lotions
Keep in mind that you have to moisturize your skin during winter. Before you go to sleep, have a cool routine: use body oils or lotions to protect your skin during a rough winter.
Hot Oil and Lemon
Because of the hoodies, beanies and hats we have to wear during winter, the probability of having dandruff increases. Hot oil and lemon therapy works wonders for a scalp that struggles with dandruff.
Hello Fresh Salads
Salads make you leaner, healthier and stronger. They also promote hair growth and health. It’s a fine way to diminish the chances of having split ends. A healthy diet really works wonders for our bodies if we learn that vegetables and fruits can also be delicious (there are plenty of yummy recipes that are easy to follow and that will change your opinion regarding veggies and fruits). You will also strengthen your immune system which is an essential thing especially during winter.
Knowing Your Skin Type
Dry, greasy, normal or mixed skin types? Knowing what kind of skin you have will help you pick the right diet and the right natural ingredients for your masks, lotions, you name it.
Incredibly Hot Baths; a Faux Pas
Even if we instinctually feel the need for a hot bath after a long day’s work, this is totally not advisable. Hot baths will only make our skin drier and we won’t be able to face the cold so easily because we will perceive the weather outside far more brutal than it actually is. Lukewarm baths and Scottish showers are recommended during winter.
Most Common Regrets
Most Common Regrets
Whether we like it or not, no matter how many times we say what’s on our mind and do what our heart or mind tells us to do, we still end up having regrets. It’s part of the beauty and tragedy of life. But knowing the most common regrets that people have can act as a wakeup call for many of us to start living life at the fullest.
A lot of people pass their wisdom to the younger generations. Old people are wise due to the things they’ve seen and experienced. The mistakes they’ve made and the things that they regretted doing or sometimes the lack of action made them regret something.
You can be young and experience things that make you more mature than your age. You can be of help to others and you can change things for the better. The most common regrets that people have can give us a different perspective on life; the kind of perspective that motivates us to do what we want before it’s too late.
Placing Work First
A lot of people regret being workaholics. They skipped important moments with their loved ones for work. Some missed their children’s first words or steps while others regret not spending enough time with their parents. Some regrets not having a family or being married because they were more focused on their career and now nothing can cure the loneliness they feel. Others regret the fact that they didn’t stay in touch with some childhood friends.
Not Speaking Up
One of the most common regrets is not speaking your mind, not facing your fears, your bosses, your teachers or your bullies. A voice that isn’t heard is filled with regrets and many scenarios that start with” what if…” Let go of your inhibitions. Learn how to speak your mind without insulting others.
The Heartaches
Love will always be one of the major things that have to do with regret. Breaking up with someone and then realizing he or she was the love of your life, the death of your loved one or the loved one that dumps you…all of these things contribute to some of the most common regrets that people have.
Society’s Standards
People pay too much attention to what other people think. One should care more about his or her dreams, aspirations, desires. Only you know what’s best for you and what you want to achieve in life. Stop paying attention to TV shows, glossy magazines, rude colleagues or acquaintances that criticize your every move, decisions and even your looks. Nobody is entitled to tell you how to live your life. Stop pleasing others and you’ll find true happiness.
Happiness versus Seriousness
While it is more than recommended to act and think like a responsible adult there’s a fine line between being mature and being a control freak. Learn to loosen up, relax, have fun, laugh more and not take things so seriously all the time. Moderation is essential when it comes to leading a happy life with little to no regrets.
How to Survive in the Big City
How to Survive in the Big City
New beginnings are always tough; every new stage in our lives brings something amazing and scary at the same time. Moving from a small city or rural area to a metropolis can be confusing in the beginning. But there are a few tips that can teach you how to survive in the big city.
If you feel that the big city that you just moved in is overwhelming at times, take a deep breath and start exploring the new possibilities. Think of it as part of your experience; something that turns you into a wiser, more powerful person. After a while, you’ll get used to it and who knows? Maybe you’ll end up loving or at least understanding the life in the big city.
How to Save Money
There are plenty of cool ways to save money in the big city. You can get a discount for your favorite shops by being a loyal customer; you can shop online for different bargains. You can switch from public transportation to renting or buying a bike that can easily avoid traffic jams. You can check out online reviews that offer you tips about vouchers, coupons and affordable shops, markets and restaurants. You can go to the local market and cook your own food; it’s healthier, more delicious and so affordable!
Feeling Insecure?
As a woman life in the big city can be threatening at times. Make sure to check our surroundings at all times and be aware of the places you have to go to. Does the area have a bad reputation? Avoid it all costs or ask a friend or coworker to accompany you. Even if you seem a bit paranoid, it is better to be safe than sorry. Always carry a pepper spray with you and if you want to feel even more secure sign up for different defense classes. They are affordable and some programs even offer free lessons. You can also hide your money in a hygienic pad for safekeeping.
Installing Useful Apps
If you want to check out the same places you’ve visited before, make sure to install different mobile applications that help you take the same road or visit the same places. This is how you’ll learn the areas you visit often by heart.
Different Free Wi-fi Spots
The advantages of living in a big city can be defined by free Wi-Fi spots, too. You can also visit different places that are significant from a historical point of view. Who doesn’t love finding out new things or discovering different landmarks in the big city they’ve just moved in?
Avoid Public Transportation at Night
Even if a cab fare might be a little more expensive, try avoiding public transportation late at night. Especially if you have to arrive in not such a friendly neighborhood.
Don’t Forget to Check Out Different DIY Projects
If you have just moved in the big city, chances are that you live on a tight budget at the beginning. It takes time to settle in and save some money. You might live in a small flat so you should learn to make the best of it. You can check out different affordable DIY projects that will make your room seem spacious. Other DIY projects can help you save money by teaching you how to cook delicious meals without spending too much money and how to live frugally while enjoying life in the big city. The key is to do your research and plan your stay in advance in order to make the best of living in the big city.
How to Survive in a Small Town
How to Survive in a Small Town
Life can turn out to be quite unexpected and we end up facing new situations and dealing with things that we aren’t used to. If your job, studies, family or personal matters make you move in a small town, you might feel a bit awkward in the beginning.
The transition from a big city to a small town isn’t a smooth one. No important change happens all of a sudden. It takes time to adjust to the new environment, to the surroundings, people and customs of the place you’re relocating to. But there are many pieces of advice that can help you survive in a small town.
Realizing that any New Stage Can Be Good
Any new stage in your life has some advantages. It can make you happier, healthier or it can help you save more money. You can also get to know yourself better, learn what you want to do and use the new experience to your own benefit. You will also find out that it’s the little things that matter and you’ll get to appreciate every little good thing that happens in your life.
More Time for Yourself
A small town doesn’t offer the same distractions like a big city. You get to have more free time at your disposal to get to know yourself better and even invest more time in your hobbies, dreams, passions. You won’t waste time in a meaningless way anymore. You can also join online classes or get a university degree by studying at home. There are so many useful things you can do now since you have all this free time at your disposal.
Give Your Community a Chance
You should get to know some of your neighbors or people you constantly interact with. You’ll be pleasantly surprised to find out that people in small towns can also share many things in common with you. And they are very helpful and friendly and you’ll feel at ease since everybody knows everybody.
The Peace and Quiet
The big cities are melting pots that come with pollution, noises and (sometimes) crazy people. If you wind up in a bad neighborhood in a big city you can easily get robbed or feel threatened. This is not the case with small towns. You’re safer here. And you can enjoy the peace and quiet. And if you move to the mountainside, you can also enjoy some splendid views and fresh air. And what is more important, people from smaller cities tend to stick for each other.
You Change for the Better…
You get to become less and less selfish and more open to communication and friendship. You will also learn to adapt to many different situations, handling life from different angles. This will really help you later on in life since you will be dealing with different people, situations, and typologies. Improving your social and communication skills is vital, especially in this day and age. It will also help you in the work field.
What to Do when You’re Feeling Overwhelmed
What to Do when You’re Feeling Overwhelmed
If you’re juggling with two jobs, college and a family life you will definitely feel overwhelmed at one point in your life. But even with one job and no family life you can still feel the pressure of tight deadlines, unfinished tasks and whatnot.
What do you need to do to stop feeling overwhelmed? Should you give up some things, make compromises or be more organized? Is there a certain recipe for success? It all depends on you and how much you can handle. Every person is different and depending on your personality, you can think of successful plans to stop feeling overwhelmed.
How you React to Deadlines
There are some types of personalities that handle deadlines different than the rest. For example, some persons work best during the long run. These are the planners; the ones that plan and finish everything before the deadline is due. On the other hand, there are people who can’t be productive if they plan everything step by step. They usually hand in a project on the due date. They work best when they feel the pressure of an upcoming deadline. Based on these types of personalities, you can assess which type of approach works best for you. So if you know how you react to deadlines, you can take the necessary steps as to prevent other situations from happening and to stop feeling overwhelmed all the time.
Handle the Most Urgent Things First
If you’re planning to multitask…you better stop right there. You may be capable of doing all that, but it will lead to exhaustion, stress and crankiness. And nobody deserves to experience such a feeling. Handle the most urgent things first then move on to the next tasks on your list. Take it step by step, take short breaks, enjoy life and stop worrying so much. You will end up saying goodbye to that overwhelming feeling and inviting that feeling of satisfaction in; when you have ticked all things that were on your To Do List.
Set Boundaries
When you’re already busy with work, family activities and different projects, there will still be others who will require your help or assistance. Learn to say no and set some realistic boundaries. You don’t owe anybody anything so you don’t have to feel guilty about declining someone’s request for your assistance. You need to take care of the things you have already promised you’d solve so there’s no time for other extra things to do.
Have You Considered Doing Something Unconventional?
The most unusual things seem to work in so many different contexts. For example, if you’re feeling overwhelmed you can take deep breaths, short breaks, daydream, go for a short walk in the park, take a power nap or even workout. You can’t imagine how these things will reorganize your mind and you will end up feeling much more relaxed and able to find the right solutions to the problems that you are dealing with.
What Divorce Battles to Pick
What Divorce Battles to Pick
One of the most delicate and sometimes painful battles some people have to go through is probably the divorce battle. Some people play nice while others can turn out to be ruthless when it comes to divorce battles. The divorce can be an ugly scene, depending on many aspects.
You need to have in mind that you can’t win all battles that have to do with your divorce. Pick the most important battles to you and do your best to win them. You don’t like any unnecessary drama so leave the other things that aren’t important to your ex.
Be Prepared for Everything
You know your soon to be ex-spouse the best so if you know he or she is going to play dirty, try not to let anger rule you over. You know that your ex will try to paint a portrait made of lies so combat the lies using the truth, using witnesses, using everything that is in your powers.
If You Have Kids…
You know there will be a custody battle. The judge usually lets the mother have the child, but if the mother is in no conditions to take care of the child prove that. Try to be polite and respectful because your kids shouldn’t see the messy side of a divorce battle. The judge will also allow the kid to tell his side of the story. If you’re a mother and your soon to be ex-husband is trying to spread lies about your character just to take the kids away from you, hold your head high because you know better who you are and what you do. You also have witnesses that can support the fact that you’re a wonderful mom so let your ex-husband keep on acting immature and disrespectful. You’re above this sort of behavior.
Dibs on…Different Things
Depending on what sort of investments you have made, what sorts of loans you have, if you signed a prenup or not, you might end up fighting over pieces of furniture, memorabilia or different art collections. If you’re fighting over the house, if you can, sell it and split the money in half. Would you really want to live in a place that constantly reminds you of a relationship that didn’t end well? Start all over again; you can do it and it will definitely make you feel stronger. All of these things are material; as long as you have the kids or the pets, you will be the one who’s richer and happier.
There Is…no Winner
This isn’t a competition or even a battle. You are two consenting adults who have arrived at the conclusion that your marriage is over. There is no winner and there is no loser here. You will both start a new, hopefully happier life and the kids will be happier, too because they won’t have to deal with tension and arguments between their parents. Everything will work out in the end, but the process of adjusting to this new stage in your life can be confusing.
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Loving Someone with Depression
Loving Someone with Depression
We all experience a type of depression at one point in our lives. Some types of depression don’t last long while other people suffer from a severe type of depression such as clinical depression that leaves them feeling tired, powerless and useless.
Loving someone with depression isn’t always easy. Like any relationship, it’s all about commitment and understanding. You can research the type of depression your lover is suffering from to better understand what this person is going through.
You can even participate in a group therapy, where you, your lover and his or her shrink can make you be more aware of the things that you can do in order to support your lover through this ordeal. Because no matter what you call depression, the truth is that a staggering number of people suffer from it and the inner battle is too tormenting for words.
The Feeling of Despair
Most of the times, people that suffer from depression feel useless, worthless, powerless. The feeling of despair is overwhelming. If you are always there for them, no matter what they will find comfort and feel safe in your arms. They will end up being more open with their feelings and states of mind and when a depressed person succeeds in being open with their feelings, the battle is more bearable.
They Are not Weak
Depressed persons always consider themselves to be weak. That is far from the truth. They are strong individuals for having to battle themselves and the inner demon called depression. How many people can fight bad thoughts constantly? Let them know you admire them and that you consider them powerful. Because that’s the truth.
They Seek Isolation
When it comes to depressed persons some things seem to become part of a routine. When depression strikes, the sufferer retreats in his or her home and doesn’t want to talk about what he or she is going through with anybody. These people seek isolation because they hate being a burden to anybody. They need assurance, they need human interaction and plenty of conversations to let them know how much they mean to you and assure them that they aren’t a burden to anyone. Don’t abandon them and think things will get better soon. Isolation seems to make depression even more terrifying.
They Are not Weird
There are many times when depressed people feel weird and think they can’t be part of the society due to their illness. The feelings they have, the depressive states are a normal manifestation of a typical human behavior. We all feel depressed at least once in our lives. The trouble starts when a depressive state turns into depression. This is where a depressed person needs specialized help and guidance from a therapist. The right treatment and therapy can work wonders for depression. And good friends and understanding lovers can also help people battle depression much easier.
Laughter Is Vital
Make them laugh more. Laughter is vital for all of us, especially depressed persons that can use serotonin. It is proved that depressed persons can’t produce enough serotonin to keep them happy.
How to Stop Feeling Guilty
How to Stop Feeling Guilty
For one reason or another, there are plenty of persons that feel guilty no matter what. Whether you deal with coworkers or managers, family or friends, lovers or spouses, you always assume it’s your fault and feel the need to apologize or mend things.
Feeling guilty is a draining, exhaustive feeling that leads to nothing good. You feel frustrated, tired all the time and you generally have a low self-esteem. But you can manage this guilt and learn how to handle it and transform it into something productive and less worrisome.
Distinguish between the Different Types of Guilt
Guilt, like any feeling we experience, is hard to define. There are many types of guilt. Most types of guilt leave you burdened and tired while some types of guilt help you be more understanding and productive. For example, if you did something wrong from breaking something or giving a reply that hurt someone’s feelings you can learn from this guilt and next time you can avoid making the same mistake again. But if you feel guilty no matter what you do or say you have to analyze yourself, practice introspection, see where this guilt stems from and try to find productive solutions to beat it with work or other activities.
You Can’t Control Everything
…and that is fine. People who are control freaks tend to feel guilty when things don’t go as planned. But the truth is that you can only be responsible for your own actions and that’s all. What other people do, what other unpredicted events may occur; this is out of your reach and you have to come to terms with the fact that nobody is in total control over their lives and that’s perfectly fine. It would be such a boring and meaningless life if we were are all able to predict and control what happens next. Embrace guilt and learn to minimize it by doing what you like and know that even if you feel guilty about something you did nothing wrong. Turn guilt into a lesson, into something that you can learn from. Each time you feel guilty try to think that this makes you a human being, capable of emotions, empathy and that next time you can do better and avoid this feeling. Guilt can also stem from wanting to please everybody and failing. Whatever you do or say, some people will still not like you. And that is also ok, because you already have friends who get you, understand you and appreciate you for who you are. The rest don’t matter.
Not all People Have Good Intentions
A lot of people can take advantage of good persons. Don’t feel guilty if you can’t help someone; no matter how hard that person is trying to guilt induce you into doing something for them. These kinds of persons should be avoided, because their toxic behavior will make you feel bad about yourself and you don’t need this kind of drama in your life.
How to Stop Feeling Guilty
How to Stop Feeling Guilty
For one reason or another, there are plenty of persons that feel guilty no matter what. Whether you deal with coworkers or managers, family or friends, lovers or spouses, you always assume it’s your fault and feel the need to apologize or mend things.
Feeling guilty is a draining, exhaustive feeling that leads to nothing good. You feel frustrated, tired all the time and you generally have a low self-esteem. But you can manage this guilt and learn how to handle it and transform it into something productive and less worrisome.
Distinguish between the Different Types of Guilt
Guilt, like any feeling we experience, is hard to define. There are many types of guilt. Most types of guilt leave you burdened and tired while some types of guilt help you be more understanding and productive. For example, if you did something wrong from breaking something or giving a reply that hurt someone’s feelings you can learn from this guilt and next time you can avoid making the same mistake again. But if you feel guilty no matter what you do or say you have to analyze yourself, practice introspection, see where this guilt stems from and try to find productive solutions to beat it with work or other activities.
You Can’t Control Everything
…and that is fine. People who are control freaks tend to feel guilty when things don’t go as planned. But the truth is that you can only be responsible for your own actions and that’s all. What other people do, what other unpredicted events may occur; this is out of your reach and you have to come to terms with the fact that nobody is in total control over their lives and that’s perfectly fine. It would be such a boring and meaningless life if we were are all able to predict and control what happens next. Embrace guilt and learn to minimize it by doing what you like and know that even if you feel guilty about something you did nothing wrong. Turn guilt into a lesson, into something that you can learn from. Each time you feel guilty try to think that this makes you a human being, capable of emotions, empathy and that next time you can do better and avoid this feeling. Guilt can also stem from wanting to please everybody and failing. Whatever you do or say, some people will still not like you. And that is also ok, because you already have friends who get you, understand you and appreciate you for who you are. The rest don’t matter.
Not all People Have Good Intentions
A lot of people can take advantage of good persons. Don’t feel guilty if you can’t help someone; no matter how hard that person is trying to guilt induce you into doing something for them. These kinds of persons should be avoided, because their toxic behavior will make you feel bad about yourself and you don’t need this kind of drama in your life.
How to Stop Feeling Worthless
How to Stop Feeling Worthless
Certain people and certain situations that we experience can make us feel worthless. This feeling can be linked to despair, anxiety and the desire to isolate yourself from the rest of the world and not improve your situation because everything is pointless.
This feeling incapacitates us from achieving many amazing things. This feeling will hurt the ones around us; the ones that truly believe in us. Worthlessness is associated with many negative feelings because misery likes company. This feeling can end up being an obstacle regarding everything that we may endeavor if we do nothing about it. Fortunately, there are many ways to push this feeling out of our lives.
The Start
When did this feeling of worthlessness start? Do you remember the specific time? Do you remember what triggered it? If not, it is always a good idea to retrace your steps or analyze the current situations that seem to emphasize this kind of feeling. Start investing time in doing what you enjoy best and write down on a piece of paper how many things you have achieved so far. You have to keep on going; you have to fight for your dreams even if you are feeling worthless at times. The goal is to never give up.
You Will Always Matter
There will be at least two or three persons that will care for you. You will always matter. People find it hard to talk about their feelings or let others know how much they matter. If you feel the support of others, it means they care for you and if you openly talk about your feeling of worthlessness they can help you move past this stage in your life by supporting you, letting you know how much you mean to them and reminding you of all the nice things that you are capable of.
Keep Your Mind Busy
A lot of people that experience this type of feeling often procrastinate. Keep your mind busy with work, volunteering and with things that you believe in. By not having time to contemplate about the futility or practicality of some things, you actually manage to get things done and reap the benefits of hard work. You will feel useful to the community and you will end up feeling more proud of yourself.
Dealing with Stress and Other Problematic Situations
When you’re faced with difficult decisions, tight deadlines and stress you need to take it easy and practice different breathing exercises. Otherwise you’ll feel worthless and feel like abandoning everything. And you can also take short minutes and look out the window and let your mind wander and day dream for a bit. You will see how your brain will find solutions to the problems you are experiencing if you learn how to relax.
Seek Out Counseling
If you have tried all of these tips and still feel that they didn’t work out, you need to seek out counseling. A professional counselor or a therapist can really make things better.
How to Stop Feeling Discouraged
How to Stop Feeling Discouraged
Words can have a powerful impact over anybody. History has taught us that words can even change the course of events and change everything we know. Any person, no matter how strong he or she is, will feel discouraged at one point in his or her life.
There are many ways that will stop you from feeling discouraged. You will first have to love yourself, accept your flaws, improve your abilities and focus on your dreams. You will also need to learn to become mentally strong in order to stop from being influenced or discouraged by others.
Unrealistic Expectations
The feeling of discouragement often occurs when our expectancies don’t match the reality of things. Setting realistic goals is just one part of the solution. You have to have several plans ready if your original plan fails. You also have to take into consideration the fact that you may not succeed at first. But don’t feel discouraged; a lot of successful people have gone through the same thing. You don’t have to give up; that’s the beauty of achieving something. Determination and hard work will keep you focused on your goals and you will try to find solutions till you get things done. Besides, all amazing things aren’t at everyone’s reach; they are difficult to achieve; this is why not many people are successful. They give up too soon on their dreams.
A Different Mindset
Don’t feel ashamed or perceive yourself as a loser or a failure. There is no such thing as losing or failing. Every mistake is a lesson that makes you a wiser, more experienced individual that won’t make the same mistake again. You will find another plan, another approach to your problem. A different mindset, a more positive approach can really work wonders.
Listening to Other and Comparisons
While it is true that any piece of advice is welcome, it is also true that some people don’t have the same mindset and dreams like you so they may not be the right persons to give you pieces of advice. Stop being influenced by others or stop trying to please others. It’s your life, your rules and only you know what you want and what is best for you. Stop comparing with other people that are now successful. They have different personalities, different goals in mind and you should only focus on your path.
Risk Taking and Patience
Being successful means being smart. You will have to learn how to not be afraid of taking risks; smart risks that is. Use your analytical mind and assess possible damage and costs if things don’t go as planned. If you can afford the risk, then do it. But also give yourself and your dreams time. Be patient with your dreams; work hard for them.
Wallowing in Self Pity
We all tend to play the victims when things don’t go as planned. Self-pity isn’t practical at all and it can lead to us feeling discouraged. Say no to self-pity. You have the means and strength to rise up again and to achieve what you’ve planned.
How to Spot an Unhappy Relationship
How to Spot an Unhappy Relationship
The telltale signs of any healthy or unhealthy relationship are easy to see. But how can you spot an unhappy relationship? How can you tell if a relationship or marriage is going on the right tracks or not? If you’re part of the relationship, your subjective memories and feelings can make it a bit trickier to analyze things.
There are some tips that teach you how to spot an unhappy relationship. This is a very essential thing that every couple should do in order to solve their problems and look for happier solutions and compromise when the situation demands for a change.
Not Eager to Come Home
Happy couples can’t wait to come home to their significant other. If you don’t find any joy in coming home from a long day at work and you seek different tasks to stay at work more, it’s clear that you are unhappy. It’s time to analyze your relationship and see what bothers you. Have a heart to heart conversation with your partner and see what you can do in order to both feel happy about your relationship.
Not Happy About Yourself
If you have the feeling that you need to change something about yourself, if you don’t seem confident or comfortable with the way you are and look, you have to dig a little deeper. Why are you dissatisfied with yourself? Is your partner still flattering you? Is he or she still pointing out the things that you do that make you so special? Is he or she noticing you at all? We tend to feel displeased with ourselves when we are ignored or when others highlight our flaws or criticize us too often. If your partner points out your flaws and criticizes you, it’s time to leave. No wonder you’re unhappy. Someone who loves you loves you and your flaws. A person that loves you will support you, lift you up and help you be the best version of yourself without making you feel bad about yourself.
Lack of Trust
Instinct never fails. If you doubt your partner’s fidelity, if you feel the need to spy on him, something is definitely wrong. Even if you have trust issues by default you can still feel when someone is loyal to you. If, however, you feel that your partner can’t be trusted, there might be some truth to this feeling. This is definitely an unhappy, unhealthy kind of relationship. If there isn’t mutual respect and trust there isn’t much left for the foundation of any great, long lasting relationship. Nobody should feel threatened or cheated. Nobody should have to spy on his partner and nobody should feel compelled to prove his loyalty on a regular basis. This isn’t a relationship; it’s an obsessive interaction that leads to anger, bitterness, frustration. Address these problems and try to solve them with the help of a therapist. If the problem isn’t solved, maybe it’s time to call it off and find the person that truly makes you happy.
How to Get Rid of Bad Habits
How to Get Rid of Bad Habits
If you’re tired of the same excuse that you hear or the excuse you use to justify some bad habits that sounds like: “it’s a bad habit I just can’t shake” make sure you have exhausted all possibilities before giving up.
There are many ways that teach you how to get rid of bad habits for good. If this doesn’t work you can try another trick-replacing the bad habits with good ones. All you have to do is be determined, get motivated by a purpose (giving up a vice, for example, will make you feel healthier) and have more patience and take things easy because it takes time to break a bad habit and change for the better.
Think of the Consequences
This means: get informed. The bad habits that you have come with different consequences. Analyze the impact some bad habits have over your financial situation, time and health. After you come to the right conclusion and realize how bad a certain habit can be, think of different plans that you can try till you break a certain habit. This would be the first step; the most important one.
Admit There Will Be Difficult Stages
When breaking a bad habit, you have to take into consideration certain aspects. For example, you might make some mistakes along the way. You might indulge in smoking a cigarette or drinking a glass of wine or do whatever it is that you consider being a bad habit. You have to be true to yourself. You can’t get cold turkey without relapsing a bit. But the trick is to not give up. Take it one step at a time. Baby steps are more than welcome when it comes to changing something that used to be a big part of your life. Routine and bad habits take time to be changed. As long as you’re determined, you can, for example, reduce the number of cigarettes you smoke till you end up chewing gum instead of smoking and one fine day you won’t feel the urge of going back to your vice.
Support Groups and Forums
If, for some reasons, you just can’t shake off a habit you can seek support groups, forums or even go to a therapist that can help you give up a certain bad habit. A lot of people reach out for help and you should do the same, especially if the situation is more than you can handle at the present time.
Avoid Temptations
This is yet another tricky part. You may be faced with different situations where something triggers your addiction or something reminds you of your bad habits. Avoid persons that might tempt you to return to your bad habits. Even if it hurts; explain the situation to these persons. If they respect your decision, they will try, by all means, not to remind you of your bad habits. A friend that smokes when you’re struggling to quit smoking shouldn’t smoke in your presence. This goes for other bad habits, too. If they don’t quit, keep your distance till you feel safe enough to be in their presence. When your bad habits are no longer a temptation you can reconnect with your friends.
How to Cope with Disappointment
How to Cope with Disappointment
The feeling of disillusionment can turn into a burden if you don’t face it sooner or later. As time passes by, we tend to feel disappointed by those around us. What actually happens? Do we tend to be more demanding of others? Is there a problem of communication?
These questions are only natural and you should identify the source of your disappointment and find out how you can understand why you’re feeling this way and what steps you need to take in order to move on and find something that pleases you.
Communication Is the Key
State your feelings in a polite, calm manner. If you’re disappointed with somebody, let that person know that. This is the first step that will help you solve this issue. If that person realizes what she or he did wrong, amends can be made. Even if that person refuses to make amends, you will feel better about yourself. You said how you felt, you explained your point of view and you tried to mend things. You will understand that those who are willing to change or make a compromise are those who really care. Those who won’t change or say sorry can’t adjust to the way you are and what more can you ask of them in this case? Either way, you will realize that you shouldn’t feel disappointed anymore.
Change Things
If you’re feeling disappointed with yourself or a certain situation or person, change what is in your powers to change. Change the environment, the workplace, the room you live in, pursue your dreams, get out more, do whatever it takes to stop feeling disappointed. Everything is at your reach if you are determined enough to escape such a burdensome feeling.
It’s a Temporary Thing
Remember that what you’re feeling right now is temporary. Analyze your surroundings a bit. Analyze the people you hang out with. If you feel that some called friends only drag you down and make you feel disappointed about yourself, it’s time to make new friends.
That Gut Feeling
Your instinct never fails so if you feel something is off about someone or something, you are probably right. Even if you cannot really explain why you’re feeling this way, trust your feelings. Keep your distance and try not to reveal too much of your private life to others.
Empathize More
Before taking any drastic decision, remember that we are only human and we are prone to make mistakes. So if you feel disappointed with someone, try walking in that person’s shoes. Analyze things from his or her perspective then arrive at a conclusion. If you have doubts or want to understand why a certain person did something that disappointed you, have an honest talk and try to understand what prompted your friend to behave in a certain way.
Keep Your Cool
The first reaction to the feeling of disappointment is anger or frustration. This isn’t a healthy approach to anything. Try to keep your cool and don’t take things so seriously all the time. Have a positive mindset; feel happy because there are people that love and appreciate you and be happy for the life you’re living. If somebody disappointed you give him or her another chance and if that person disappoints you again, you’ll know that at least you tried to be the better person but it just didn’t work out. Life is too short to take things so seriously.