How to Cope with Disappointment
The feeling of disillusionment can turn into a burden if you don’t face it sooner or later. As time passes by, we tend to feel disappointed by those around us. What actually happens? Do we tend to be more demanding of others? Is there a problem of communication?
These questions are only natural and you should identify the source of your disappointment and find out how you can understand why you’re feeling this way and what steps you need to take in order to move on and find something that pleases you.
Communication Is the Key
State your feelings in a polite, calm manner. If you’re disappointed with somebody, let that person know that. This is the first step that will help you solve this issue. If that person realizes what she or he did wrong, amends can be made. Even if that person refuses to make amends, you will feel better about yourself. You said how you felt, you explained your point of view and you tried to mend things. You will understand that those who are willing to change or make a compromise are those who really care. Those who won’t change or say sorry can’t adjust to the way you are and what more can you ask of them in this case? Either way, you will realize that you shouldn’t feel disappointed anymore.
Change Things
If you’re feeling disappointed with yourself or a certain situation or person, change what is in your powers to change. Change the environment, the workplace, the room you live in, pursue your dreams, get out more, do whatever it takes to stop feeling disappointed. Everything is at your reach if you are determined enough to escape such a burdensome feeling.
It’s a Temporary Thing
Remember that what you’re feeling right now is temporary. Analyze your surroundings a bit. Analyze the people you hang out with. If you feel that some called friends only drag you down and make you feel disappointed about yourself, it’s time to make new friends.
That Gut Feeling
Your instinct never fails so if you feel something is off about someone or something, you are probably right. Even if you cannot really explain why you’re feeling this way, trust your feelings. Keep your distance and try not to reveal too much of your private life to others.
Empathize More
Before taking any drastic decision, remember that we are only human and we are prone to make mistakes. So if you feel disappointed with someone, try walking in that person’s shoes. Analyze things from his or her perspective then arrive at a conclusion. If you have doubts or want to understand why a certain person did something that disappointed you, have an honest talk and try to understand what prompted your friend to behave in a certain way.
Keep Your Cool
The first reaction to the feeling of disappointment is anger or frustration. This isn’t a healthy approach to anything. Try to keep your cool and don’t take things so seriously all the time. Have a positive mindset; feel happy because there are people that love and appreciate you and be happy for the life you’re living. If somebody disappointed you give him or her another chance and if that person disappoints you again, you’ll know that at least you tried to be the better person but it just didn’t work out. Life is too short to take things so seriously.