How to Handle Stalkers

In order to handle a stalker, you need to identify the signs first. They will be described below. Unfortunately, more and more women are confronted with at least one stalker during their lifetime. Most of the times stalkers are quite innocent, but they do affect their victims from a psychological standpoint.

There are a few ways to successfully handle stalkers, but if all of these tips fail, you still have an ace up your sleeve that you need to use. You should let other people know what you’re going through and notify the authorities.

Always Be Aware of the Surroundings

Do you have a strange feeling of deja-vu? You keep bumping into the same person over and over again. You remember seeing him or her somewhere, but you can’t tell for sure. Try to not be alone in the dark in secluded areas. Always be accompanied by someone. For the time being; it’s for your own safety.

The Signs

If you continuously bump into the same person-it might be time to consider that you’re being followed by a stalker. If you feel spied or you feel as if someone is looking at you (your instinct never fails) it’s time to pay closer attention to your surroundings. If you get unwanted messages on your telephone, email address or unwanted gifts at your home address, it’s time to do whatever it takes to identify the sender. If all these fail, you might consider changing your email address, phone number and ask your acquaintances if they gave your contact info out to somebody. Sometimes the stalker can be more courageous and ask you out or initiate a conversation. He or she might get aggressive if they are rejected. If they still don’t respect your personal space and they invite you on a date again (using a dulcet tone and looking so innocent) they don’t care about your refusal; they will be persistent.

Different Types of Stalkers

There are different types of stalkers out there. Some stalkers are deranged individuals that you haven’t seen before but who have formed an obsessive fascination with your persona. Maybe you remind them of someone, maybe you fit their female or male archetype or maybe you smiled politely to them out of courtesy and they imagined this was a sort of invitation. You don’t have to blame yourself for their twisted minds and scenarios. Some types of stalkers can be persons that you already know: coworkers, exes, neighbors. Some stalkers will never pose a threat to you. They will never have the courage to initiate any dialogue or encounter with you and they’ll stick to following you for a while and they’ll move on to another person. Other stalkers can go through different stages from stalking to invading your privacy to harassing you, bullying you and even threating you with a violent behavior. The moment you see a shift in their behavior, some alarm bells should ring. This is the time to act quickly. Notify the authorities, your friends and family that something is totally wrong with this stalker. Make sure to be constantly in the presence of a different person. If the authorities do nothing about it you can consider the impossible: move out, change your name, your info contact, everything. Your safety comes first. You should also take into consideration taking self-defense classes and always be aware of your surroundings. If you find yourself walking in a remote area it’s best to wait for a friend to join you.